A call for being emotionally naked
‘Emotions’ can seem like a scary word. Especially, when we’re confronted with the idea of having to share our emotions with others.
Because, of course, emotions & feelings are not all great. Especially those that hurt, such as the pain and sadness of rejection. Or the feeling of being abandoned, discarded, ignored after being heart-broken.
It’s no wonder so many of us choose to put on a ‘brave-face’ over honesty and openness.
Yet we keep hearing this word ‘vulnerability’ and the importance of speaking how we truly think & feel if we desire to create better and deeper connections, romantic or in general.
Despite this, we can’t help but feel it’s a lie or perhaps thats being ‘vulnerable and emotionally naked’ is not for us!
We couldn’t possibly be expected to openly share our deep secret thoughts and feelings with another person. We assume that no-one wants to know our weaknesses. So we hide all the yucky stuff.
Surely, what people really want is a well-rounded and, most of all, confident human, as their ideal partner. After all, that’s what we are looking for ourselves — right? We’re already too much of an emotional mess and wreck to have to deal with someone else’s drama. We need someone who’s a rock and dependable because we are not.
Some readers have already realised where I’m going with this…. if you don’t, you will now: if you’ve resonated with the words above, then, recognise you are not alone. And that’s a key point: Everyone feels like this and yet we walk around like we are the only ones. As if we are especially unique & broken in a world of ‘perfect’ people.
When in fact, we all feel a little lost sometimes, that we are missing the bigger picture or perhaps desire a guilty pleasure. And yet we co-exist with everyone on the planet, who feel the same, and no one is talking about it!
O.K probably 1% are open and talking about how they really feel. While the rest of us live in the pretence of perfection. (Source: most of social media)
In reality, our confidence & success are fleeting. But our truth, about how we think and feel, is always consistent.
The more you acknowledge that your shame is the same as others, the less you’ll feel ashamed.
I’ll repeat that: The more you acknowledge that your shame is the same as others, the less you’ll feel ashamed.
The more you open up and talk about how you feel the more you give permission for others to do the same.
By speaking vulnerably, you create a fundamental bridge of connection with everyone around you. The connection of feeling.
You tell others: “I feel the same as you”
Becoming emotionally naked will liberate you from the depths of dark isolation and catapult you into the stratosphere of abundant connection.
“I am the same as you”
“I accept you”
“I have compassion for your experience”
Being emotionally naked means you’ve shed the pretence of perfect. You’ve reconciled the inner child’s fear of shame and embarrassment and you’ve matured into a fully grown and expressed human. Your reward is deeper, loving and fruitful connections both romantic and companions.
You understand others better and you let them be, without judgement, because you no longer judge yourself.
So embrace your secret desires & flaws and share how you really feel. Shed your shame and become emotionally naked. It’s the best way to be human.